After reading yet another rant against gay marriage and how it’s all about sex, I will repeat:

While marriage has not historically been about love but about property rights and inheritance, the fact is that marriage today, for many people (certainly not all, as marriage for love is a luxury in many places) is about love. And love is not a heterosexual need, but a human need.

The variant forms of orientation are not about sex, but about where your emotional, psychological and physical attraction lies. There are many homosexual people who never have sex, but are emotionally attracted to, and bond with, others of their same gender. The same is true of heterosexuals. Feeling an attraction to another person does not always lead to physical intimacy.

In fact, most people, especially males, experience some form of homo-eroticism in their life, especially as they are growing up. Not sex, not a homosexual experience, but a moment in which they experience an attraction to the same gender…or a role model they admire or look up to. This is probably why so many males are homophobic- what they fear is their own reactions, or past reactions… so to prove they are not gay, they become anti-gay, putting their own fears into hating, or being grossed out by, those who represent what they fear about themselves.

There is simply no other explanation for homophobia other than a person fearing their own feelings or responses, voluntary or no.

And before anyone tries to bring up false info, no, pedophilia is not about homosexuality. In fact, the majority of pedophiles are “straight” males, many of them often married with children of their own. And then, there’s incest, the vast majority of which occurs in heterosexual families.

So homosexuals are not the “boogeymen” some try to make them out to be, while ignoring the fact that males in general, mostly heterosexual, make up the larger body of those who engage in incest, pedophilia and rape…so maybe it’s time we examine how to address those problems more than worrying about same-gender couples being allowed to be married after they have fallen in love and want to make a commitment to each other.

Finally, when it comes to love and relationships between consenting adults, it is the worst form of arrogance on the part of another person to declare they are entitled to telling someone else who they can fall in love with, who they can marry and who they can shape a life with.