Okay- one last time:

There is no one “gay gene” anymore than there is one “heterosexual gene”, or “bi gene” or anything else.

Nature is a giant experiment, and the creation of life is complex, with DNA, hormones, chemical washes that do or don’t take place, mix-ups and mutations. The sexual continuum is real, diverse, complex and amazing.

Trying to find a way to “blame” someone or anyone or anything for the fact that LGBTQIA people exist in order to prevent, hide or explain away their existence needs to be examined beyond the obvious that quotes religious or social objections. We need to look at the people who object to the sexual mores or behaviors of consenting adults that do not conform to the objecting person’s beliefs or feelings and ask why they operate under such fear.  We need to question any people or nation that persecutes, silences, oppresses, or imprisons LGBTQIA people, or that bans their presence in daily scenes of life on screen or in books, and question why they hold such fear and cruelty in their hearts and so eagerly seek to destroy the very humanity of not just those they object to, but the humanity of those whose objections they feed.

From aversion therapy to shaming, from making particular orientations illegal to killing non-heterosexual people, from telling them they are doomed to hell or worth less than ‘real” people, from claiming the right to verbally and physically attack them in public or private, in social media, in movies, on television and radio, from pulpits and political podiums is not just appalling but borders on the psychopathic need of some people to hate someone and use them for their own purposes to gain power and followers. Those who would deny other consenting adults a choice in partner or intimate relationship need to be examined for the motive or thing that drives them.

I don’t care what orientation two consenting adults are- it boggles my mind that while some folks are attacking in every way possible LGBTQIA people, some of those same folks seldom speak out against the legal pedophilia found in some churches and states, or almost never speak about the issues of child sexual abuse by adults for ‘entertainment” and self-gratification, or against the rape culture rape and against incest- a very real problem in almost every land on the planet. These “good people”  spend their time, money and words to attack consenting adults who happen to love someone of the same sex or whose sexual orientation is different than heterosexuals,  yet the increasing abuse of non-consenting women and children goes on.

Here’s the question: Why are those people so intent on attacking, suppressing, oppressing, and targeting LGBTQIA people? What is the mindset that leads them to focus on the personal lives of non-majority consenting adults so much?

I suspect that it is their own responses that terrify them- the niggling arousal -whether emotional, physical or what have you- that leads them to react with fear disguised as hate- towards both the Other and themselves, in case they discover something inside themselves that they are terrified of: a hint of curiosity? Of arousal? Of attraction?

Is there a fear that they might “lose their chance of a partner” should there be competition they can’t compete with? Do these men think “Will that lesbian/trans person take the woman I want? Will I have to be nicer to/work harder to obtain women in order to compete with lesbians?”

Do some women think “My god, how can I compete with that attractive gay man/trans person? Will they make me less special/take the man I want..?”

Or is their hatred or disgust towards LGBTQIA people more that it forces them to confront some hard truths about the people in their own lives or within themselves?

The anti-gay myths presented by anti-gay individuals, religious figures, politicians, groups, and organizations to justify the legal and social oppression and of LGBTQIA have been proven false over and over again, in study after study. That these myths continue implies an ongoing, deliberate intent to not only justify the oppression and repression of LGBTQIA persons, but to deceive a portion of the public regarding LGBTQIA people in order to scapegoat and persecute them.

Bottom line: what does another persons’ orientation have to do with the lives of their attackers? How does another person’s orientation impact the lives, personal or public, of anyone else? What is it anti-gay supporters fear about LGBTQIA people? (For that matter, what do men fear about women that makes these men so misogynistic- and yes, I do feel misogyny plays a part with the male side of anti-gay feelings) ?

Enough. If you must have someone to fear, focus your feelings on those whose words and actions directly impact your own lives. Focus on making yourselves better people, stop worrying about what other consenting people do in their private loves and lives and fix your own character flaws and weaknesses first. If you believe you are acting for morality as defined by your particular religious beliefs (because most laws governing the intimate lives of adults are often based in religious beliefs and interpretations), it might be time to remember that religion is also a private matter, that the separation of church and state is there for just this reason, and remind yourself that the morality your religion demands is just that: a demand on yourself, not others. And then, explore what the term morality includes.

Because the problem is in how some people define “moral” and “morality”… many people who oppress, maim, cripple, stone, crucify, and murder others tell themselves- or claim to believe- they are being “moral” and imposing “morality”… they are not, of course, being moral- they are trying to control the intimate lives of others, trying to control sexual behaviors (and that is a whole other interesting aspect of their own internal life, as well!)- but the claim to “morality” is the lie they tell themselves so they don’t have to admit that they are being immoral and cruel, vicious and spiteful, fanatical and sanctimonious… and perhaps, even, afraid of something inside themselves they feel when they see a gay, lesbian, or trans person?

© 2021

LGBTQIA: lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual, questioning, inter-sex, asexual

An interesting article:

www.bbc.com/future/article/20170315-the-invention-of-heterosexuality